As far as I can tell, the existing project named Tinder provides an API (to a product called BaseCamp, providing webbased chat), but isn't an XMPP implementation. It can be combined with an XMPP implementation though, which is where the Google hits are based on.
I don't think naming our project Tinder would cause mentionable confusion. As most of us seem to agree that this name has the best ring to it, I'd like to go with Tinder.
Chris, could you have a SVN repository created by that name please? Anonymous wizards in the order of JIRA (whoever you are), can a JIRA project be created as well please?
Guenther, I'm glad that someone claims usefulness, even before we announced the project. Your use-case is what I had in mind, when proposing the project. I've ran into something similar before - I bet others have similar problems.
If someone finds more useful packages that should move from Openfire (or Whack - not everything there might necessarily be external component related) let me know.
I'm writing a short roadmap and project definition, which I'll share them later this weekend.