How do I approve pending contacts from the spark client.
From the client, you simply add a contact, then they will receive a message asking them to allow, and you vice versa, BUT it is WAYYYYYY easier to just set the options from the server with the following…
Check: http://www.igniterealtime.org/projects/openfire/plugins.jsp
in particular the “Subscription” plugin that " Automatically accepts or rejects subsription requests"
More info on this plugin here: http://www.igniterealtime.org/projects/openfire/plugins/subscription/readme.html
Hope that helps!
Scott