Let’s say I have a A user and a B user.
I have 2 Jabber clients, A and B are online and don’t know each other.
If I had B to A contact list, I can see that B is online, even if he has not accepted yet! Is there a way to change this behavior in the server side with openfire : I don’t want A to know if B is online as long as B hasn’t denied/accepted the invitation!