User Options (roster) in openfire 3.5

I have openfire 3.5.0.1 installed on fc7 using mysql. I have posted before on issues with seeing shared groups in the roster and I think this might have something to do with my issues. If I go to the roster section of a users properties

http://server:9090/user-roster.jsp?username=username

I see a lot of items in there, even though I only should see the one other member of my group since I’ve

Enabled contact list group sharing, but not to any other users for the 3 groups I have setup. Bottom line, if I click on delete in that page I get this roster item is a member of a shared group and cannot be deleted. I’ve looked through the database and cannot find where this information is stored on the server. Can anyone tell me how to delete everything in there?

Nevermind, looks like it is just in the cache…